my lil brother turned 10 yesterday.... yay.. dat boy can like to frustrate me shaa, but i still love him.. big sister kisses.. muahhhh... lol
Moi
Friday, September 10, 2010
Familiarrrr
my lil brother turned 10 yesterday.... yay.. dat boy can like to frustrate me shaa, but i still love him.. big sister kisses.. muahhhh... lol
clowning
i was feeling like a clown here... big eyed and all
always find the humor in every situation..
we have enough struggles in life and there is no reason why we shouldn't be a lil jovial.
live rich and play plenty
Thursday, September 9, 2010
prideful one
so i saw this video and u guessed it, it inspired me to write a note. its amazing one can be so poor at writing papers but yet have so much to say.
so back to the videos RIP BLACK AMERICA, now all i have to say to that is wow. i Know there are women out there who disagree to what that Black man said, but the fact is there is so much truth in what he is saying, so much soo that it hits right to home for me not because i act that way but because i have seen many friends become the women he is talking about in his video.
Let me start analyzing this
first of all being independent is not a sin, but women in general need to understand that admitting u need a man does not mean relinquishing your whole entire life and being to him, it doesn't mean you have become a door mat and neither does it mean you are a fool. All it means is that you are accepting your role as a caregiver, and we all know you cant really be a caregiver if you don't have anyone to care for.
in the video the man said something about black women blaming black men for their problems, this is very true. i see people everyday saying things like he is a no good two timing negro, i think to myself you knew that in the first place but u still went ahead and suck with him. seriously we black women need to start taking responsibilities for our actions and stop blaming black men.
there is strength in a family, not just a family but a strong loving family. all this bull about i dont need a man needs to stop, i have said it before so many times myself and i realize its just childish talk. Yes i am admitting now i do need a man, and i am woman enough to know that i am not a fool for admitting that. My bible tells me a man shall leave his father's house to be with his wife, meaning you don't live with your parents forever and you sure are not to live with yourself forever either.
My definition of a strong black woman
A strong black woman is one who can admit she needs a man, a woman who knows the importance of a family, a woman who cherishes respect (the so called twisted independence of now), a woman who knows the man is the head and she is the heart of the family, a woman who knows exactly when to stop talking, a woman who can hold her own anywhere, any day, anytime, and most of all a woman that respects herself, has values and standards and sticks to it.
foolish pride is saying things like i dont need a man, i can take care of myself, and so on. Sure you need a man and we all know that just like a man needs a woman, and ofcourse you can take care of yourself, lets see how much longer you can take care of yourself when you are 70, single and miserable.
Don't get me wrong about independence, independence to me its knowing who i am, knowing i can take care of my own, husband, kidz and other family members included, knowing i have a family to go home to, knowing my husband loves me for me and doesn't look down on me, if you want further details check out my note about independence.
We need to seriously face the truth and stop acting up, too many black women like the man said acts like little childish girls, whining and crying every chance they get to get their way.
there is strength in submission, and foolish pride is holding your shoulders so high you can't even see whats in front of you, (like Oprah) yes i said it, i never liked her anyway. Oprah is a bad bad example of a strong black woman now Michelle Obama on the other hand is a great example of a strong black woman and so is my mother.
Let's Look up to the real strong women and emulate their ways, like the man said lets find our way back to that thrown where we belong, we are beautiful and special and we all need to start acting in that light
AMEN
disclaimer.. these are my thoughts and opinions, you do not have to agree with them, but hey that's what makes us human, we can't always agree.
so back to the videos RIP BLACK AMERICA, now all i have to say to that is wow. i Know there are women out there who disagree to what that Black man said, but the fact is there is so much truth in what he is saying, so much soo that it hits right to home for me not because i act that way but because i have seen many friends become the women he is talking about in his video.
Let me start analyzing this
first of all being independent is not a sin, but women in general need to understand that admitting u need a man does not mean relinquishing your whole entire life and being to him, it doesn't mean you have become a door mat and neither does it mean you are a fool. All it means is that you are accepting your role as a caregiver, and we all know you cant really be a caregiver if you don't have anyone to care for.
in the video the man said something about black women blaming black men for their problems, this is very true. i see people everyday saying things like he is a no good two timing negro, i think to myself you knew that in the first place but u still went ahead and suck with him. seriously we black women need to start taking responsibilities for our actions and stop blaming black men.
there is strength in a family, not just a family but a strong loving family. all this bull about i dont need a man needs to stop, i have said it before so many times myself and i realize its just childish talk. Yes i am admitting now i do need a man, and i am woman enough to know that i am not a fool for admitting that. My bible tells me a man shall leave his father's house to be with his wife, meaning you don't live with your parents forever and you sure are not to live with yourself forever either.
My definition of a strong black woman
A strong black woman is one who can admit she needs a man, a woman who knows the importance of a family, a woman who cherishes respect (the so called twisted independence of now), a woman who knows the man is the head and she is the heart of the family, a woman who knows exactly when to stop talking, a woman who can hold her own anywhere, any day, anytime, and most of all a woman that respects herself, has values and standards and sticks to it.
foolish pride is saying things like i dont need a man, i can take care of myself, and so on. Sure you need a man and we all know that just like a man needs a woman, and ofcourse you can take care of yourself, lets see how much longer you can take care of yourself when you are 70, single and miserable.
Don't get me wrong about independence, independence to me its knowing who i am, knowing i can take care of my own, husband, kidz and other family members included, knowing i have a family to go home to, knowing my husband loves me for me and doesn't look down on me, if you want further details check out my note about independence.
We need to seriously face the truth and stop acting up, too many black women like the man said acts like little childish girls, whining and crying every chance they get to get their way.
there is strength in submission, and foolish pride is holding your shoulders so high you can't even see whats in front of you, (like Oprah) yes i said it, i never liked her anyway. Oprah is a bad bad example of a strong black woman now Michelle Obama on the other hand is a great example of a strong black woman and so is my mother.
Let's Look up to the real strong women and emulate their ways, like the man said lets find our way back to that thrown where we belong, we are beautiful and special and we all need to start acting in that light
AMEN
disclaimer.. these are my thoughts and opinions, you do not have to agree with them, but hey that's what makes us human, we can't always agree.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
A TALE OF THE PAST
THIS IS A REWRITE OF MY FB NOTE I HOPE ITS BETTER .. LOL
it all started as an innocent friendship,
they met, they talked,
she was the leader of the pack, he was a pack, he followed
she led like the lioness that she is
he was awed by her leadership
drawn by her presence
cos suddenly he came around often
they hung, they chatted, they laughed, they talked, they sang, they danced
all this with a growing feeling deep inside, neither she nor he noticed
both oblivious to that which was bent on happening between them
but there was one who knew, and there was another
and yet another, it seems all knew but two involved
she jumps he catches, he cries she kisses away his tears
his wrong she rights him and when she is aggravated he calms her
a day came and realization hits, like a thunderstorm in the dead of the night
it hits so hard it hurt, a SWEET sting to the heart
sending sparks of current through their entire being
something had been switched on deep within them
something so splendid words can't describe
and so two became one, joined by the force
the force of attraction that cant be denied when felt
the good was there but so was the bad
she demanded, he couldn't give enough,
she pulled and pulled but he held back,
back and forth like a tug of war
and then came the clash
there was the thunderstorm again but this time it was bad
roaring like a hungry tiger ready to feast on its prey
busting in, devouring everything in its part
it broke, shattered and destroyed one
now one has become two again
broken and hurt, separated from what they felt was forever
saying i guess it wasn't meant to be,
back to back walking away into far far away lands
separated not only by miles but by realization
realization of the destruction of what could have been
time did it's thing, passing slowly it seems
the two secretly wondering what the other was upto
i cant take it anymore he thouGht, if only a word from her
maybe just maybe it will become easier
i shouldnt have done that he said to her
rash decision he said, momentary lapse of judgment he claimed
but wait nothing can be done, you ask why
he is one with another permanently
joined together in holy matrimony
once again they thought i GUESS IT WAS'T MEANT TO BE
but all this is A TALE OF THE PAST
it all started as an innocent friendship,
they met, they talked,
she was the leader of the pack, he was a pack, he followed
she led like the lioness that she is
he was awed by her leadership
drawn by her presence
cos suddenly he came around often
they hung, they chatted, they laughed, they talked, they sang, they danced
all this with a growing feeling deep inside, neither she nor he noticed
both oblivious to that which was bent on happening between them
but there was one who knew, and there was another
and yet another, it seems all knew but two involved
she jumps he catches, he cries she kisses away his tears
his wrong she rights him and when she is aggravated he calms her
a day came and realization hits, like a thunderstorm in the dead of the night
it hits so hard it hurt, a SWEET sting to the heart
sending sparks of current through their entire being
something had been switched on deep within them
something so splendid words can't describe
and so two became one, joined by the force
the force of attraction that cant be denied when felt
the good was there but so was the bad
she demanded, he couldn't give enough,
she pulled and pulled but he held back,
back and forth like a tug of war
and then came the clash
there was the thunderstorm again but this time it was bad
roaring like a hungry tiger ready to feast on its prey
busting in, devouring everything in its part
it broke, shattered and destroyed one
now one has become two again
broken and hurt, separated from what they felt was forever
saying i guess it wasn't meant to be,
back to back walking away into far far away lands
separated not only by miles but by realization
realization of the destruction of what could have been
time did it's thing, passing slowly it seems
the two secretly wondering what the other was upto
i cant take it anymore he thouGht, if only a word from her
maybe just maybe it will become easier
i shouldnt have done that he said to her
rash decision he said, momentary lapse of judgment he claimed
but wait nothing can be done, you ask why
he is one with another permanently
joined together in holy matrimony
once again they thought i GUESS IT WAS'T MEANT TO BE
but all this is A TALE OF THE PAST
Monday, June 7, 2010
strenght Vs foolish pride..... old fb note
soo i saw this video and u guessed it, it inspired me to write a note. its amazing one can be soo poor at writting papers but yet have so much to say.
so back to the videos RIP BLACK AMERICA, now all i have to say to that is wow. i KNow there are women out there who disagree to what that Black man said, but the fact is there is so much truth in what he is saying, so much soo that it hits right to home for me not because i act that way but becasue i have seen many friends become the women he is talking about in his video.
Let me start analyzing this
first of all being independent is not a sin, but women in general need to understand that admitting u need a man does not mean relinquishing your whole entire life and being to him, it doesnt mean you have become a door mat and neither does it mean you are a fool. All it means isthat you are accepting your role as a caregiver, and we all know you cant really be a caregiver if you dont have anyone to care for.
in the video the man said something about black women blaming black men for their problems, this is very true. i see people everyday saying things like he is a no good two timing negro, i think to myself you knew that in the first place but u still went ahead and suck with him. seriously we black women need to start taking responsibilities for our actions and stop blaming black men.
there is strenght in a family, not just a family but a strong loving family. all this bull about i dont need a man needs to stop, i have said it before so many times myself and i realize its just childish talk. Yes i am admitting now i do need a man, and i am woman eneough to know that i am not a fool for admitting that. My bible tells me a man shall leave his father's house to be with his wife, meaning you dont live with your parents forever and you sure are not to live with yourself forever either.
My definition of a strong black woman
A strong black woman is one who can admit she needs a man, a woman who knows the importance of a family, a woman who cherishes respect more than (the so called twisted independence of now), a woman who knows the man is the head and she is the heart of the family, a woman who knows exactly when to stop talking, a woman who can hold her own anywhere, anyday, anytime, and most of all a woman that respects herself, has values and standards and sticks to it.
foolish pride is saying things like i dont need a man, i can take care of myself, and so on. Sure you need a man and we all know that just like a man needs a woman, and ofcourse you can take care of yourself, lets see how much longer you can take care of yourself when you are 70, single and miserable.
Dont ge me wrong about independence, independence to me its knowing who i am, knowing i can take care of my own, husband, kidz and other family memebers included, knowing i have a family to go home to, knowing my husband loves me for me and doesnt look down on me, if you want further details check out my note about independence.
We need to seriously face the truth and stop acting up, too many black women like the man said acts like little childish girls, whinning and crying everychance they get to get their way.
there is strength in submission, and foolish pride is holding your shoulders so high you cant even see whats in front of you, (like Oprah) yes i said it, i never liked her anyway. Oprah is a bad bad example of a strong black woman, My mother on the other hand is a great example of a strong black woman, and the first lady of USA.
lets Look up to the real strong women and learn from them, like the man said lets find our way back to that thrown where we belong Black women. we are beautiful and special and we all need to start acting in that light
AMEN
so back to the videos RIP BLACK AMERICA, now all i have to say to that is wow. i KNow there are women out there who disagree to what that Black man said, but the fact is there is so much truth in what he is saying, so much soo that it hits right to home for me not because i act that way but becasue i have seen many friends become the women he is talking about in his video.
Let me start analyzing this
first of all being independent is not a sin, but women in general need to understand that admitting u need a man does not mean relinquishing your whole entire life and being to him, it doesnt mean you have become a door mat and neither does it mean you are a fool. All it means isthat you are accepting your role as a caregiver, and we all know you cant really be a caregiver if you dont have anyone to care for.
in the video the man said something about black women blaming black men for their problems, this is very true. i see people everyday saying things like he is a no good two timing negro, i think to myself you knew that in the first place but u still went ahead and suck with him. seriously we black women need to start taking responsibilities for our actions and stop blaming black men.
there is strenght in a family, not just a family but a strong loving family. all this bull about i dont need a man needs to stop, i have said it before so many times myself and i realize its just childish talk. Yes i am admitting now i do need a man, and i am woman eneough to know that i am not a fool for admitting that. My bible tells me a man shall leave his father's house to be with his wife, meaning you dont live with your parents forever and you sure are not to live with yourself forever either.
My definition of a strong black woman
A strong black woman is one who can admit she needs a man, a woman who knows the importance of a family, a woman who cherishes respect more than (the so called twisted independence of now), a woman who knows the man is the head and she is the heart of the family, a woman who knows exactly when to stop talking, a woman who can hold her own anywhere, anyday, anytime, and most of all a woman that respects herself, has values and standards and sticks to it.
foolish pride is saying things like i dont need a man, i can take care of myself, and so on. Sure you need a man and we all know that just like a man needs a woman, and ofcourse you can take care of yourself, lets see how much longer you can take care of yourself when you are 70, single and miserable.
Dont ge me wrong about independence, independence to me its knowing who i am, knowing i can take care of my own, husband, kidz and other family memebers included, knowing i have a family to go home to, knowing my husband loves me for me and doesnt look down on me, if you want further details check out my note about independence.
We need to seriously face the truth and stop acting up, too many black women like the man said acts like little childish girls, whinning and crying everychance they get to get their way.
there is strength in submission, and foolish pride is holding your shoulders so high you cant even see whats in front of you, (like Oprah) yes i said it, i never liked her anyway. Oprah is a bad bad example of a strong black woman, My mother on the other hand is a great example of a strong black woman, and the first lady of USA.
lets Look up to the real strong women and learn from them, like the man said lets find our way back to that thrown where we belong Black women. we are beautiful and special and we all need to start acting in that light
AMEN
Another friend engaged... c my life?
A friend of mine tweeted a couple of days ago "omg another friend of mine is engaged", i replied saying awww that's awesome, she came back with why?Ii was shocked by this reply but at the same time I knew exactly what was in her mind.
I knew in her mind she was thinking another mate of hers engaged and on the road to being Mrs Blank, and yet she is still single, of course i cautioned her and told her everyone's time is different.
My point is just because we females are at a certain age and Nigerian doesn't mean we have to start searching like hungry rats looking for cheese. You should keep an open mind as a single gal but i don't buy the idea of females jumping from one event to the other solely for the purpose of finding a mate, countless blind dates, numerous registration to dating sites, what ever happened to having fun, meeting people randomly and such.
I do understand the reason why some ladies go to all this length to find a mate, you thinking oh my, my biological clock is ticking, my parents expect this and that of me and so on, but seriously at what point did it become ok to turn your back on other issues in your life all in the name of finding a partner.
Instead of devoting all the free time you have to finding a partner or worrying about not finding a partner, why don't you take that time to take care of yourself, understand tolerate and love you and those around you ( trust me it ll come in handy when you have your own to care for).
Another thing that bothers me about some of us ladies is that we place expectations on future partners that we ourselves cant live upto, i don't understand how you want a man that has his life together when your own life and personal affairs is in shambles. Using that numerous free time you have to get your life together is one of the best thing you can do for yourself (nothing is more sexy than a woman who has her life together).
For those who are wondering
Yes i am a female (duh right)
Yes i am Unmarried
Yes i am Nigerian
Yes i in my twenties
Yes i am a college graduate
Yes my parents are beginning to worry a little (lol)
And yes i can wait for Mr right (lol)
But No i am not desperate
No i am not in a hurry
No i am not overly sensitive,or independent
No i am not too forward ( that might be debatable)
All this due to the fact that i know that the Lord's time is the best, i am not one to hurry a process, i know everything will happen in due time. ladies have fun, do things you want to do, dont be stopped by society's boundaries, basically do you and live life to the fullest, don't let anything hold you back because time waits for no man or woman and life is short.
Live a lot ladies
I knew in her mind she was thinking another mate of hers engaged and on the road to being Mrs Blank, and yet she is still single, of course i cautioned her and told her everyone's time is different.
My point is just because we females are at a certain age and Nigerian doesn't mean we have to start searching like hungry rats looking for cheese. You should keep an open mind as a single gal but i don't buy the idea of females jumping from one event to the other solely for the purpose of finding a mate, countless blind dates, numerous registration to dating sites, what ever happened to having fun, meeting people randomly and such.
I do understand the reason why some ladies go to all this length to find a mate, you thinking oh my, my biological clock is ticking, my parents expect this and that of me and so on, but seriously at what point did it become ok to turn your back on other issues in your life all in the name of finding a partner.
Instead of devoting all the free time you have to finding a partner or worrying about not finding a partner, why don't you take that time to take care of yourself, understand tolerate and love you and those around you ( trust me it ll come in handy when you have your own to care for).
Another thing that bothers me about some of us ladies is that we place expectations on future partners that we ourselves cant live upto, i don't understand how you want a man that has his life together when your own life and personal affairs is in shambles. Using that numerous free time you have to get your life together is one of the best thing you can do for yourself (nothing is more sexy than a woman who has her life together).
For those who are wondering
Yes i am a female (duh right)
Yes i am Unmarried
Yes i am Nigerian
Yes i in my twenties
Yes i am a college graduate
Yes my parents are beginning to worry a little (lol)
And yes i can wait for Mr right (lol)
But No i am not desperate
No i am not in a hurry
No i am not overly sensitive,or independent
No i am not too forward ( that might be debatable)
All this due to the fact that i know that the Lord's time is the best, i am not one to hurry a process, i know everything will happen in due time. ladies have fun, do things you want to do, dont be stopped by society's boundaries, basically do you and live life to the fullest, don't let anything hold you back because time waits for no man or woman and life is short.
Live a lot ladies
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